What do you do? Here are some options:
1. Turn that car around and go home, which means one of two scenarios:
- You get home, run into the house, strip, clean-up, spray yourself with something that doesn't smell like French roast, change, and get back into the car. You'll be late for work, but at least you'll be in clean clothes.
- You get home, stomp into the house, strip, crawl back into bed. Take a mental health day. Screw it! You tried. It was a fail. The day is wasted!
Whatever you decide to do there's one thing that will make your decision better: your attitude. There are two way to go with the situation:
- Screw it. I'm done! Being angry because of the situation (smell like coffee, burned by coffee, a mess because of coffee, wasted money on spilled coffee). Anger turns into frustration that taints the rest of your day, making every situation and interaction bigger than it may be. Your entire outlook was soiled by coffee stains. OR ....
- Sigh. Deep breath. OK. I can fix this. Take that deep breath and be in the moment. Instead of dwelling on the coffee incident, move on from it. It is what it is. Now make your decision about how to handle it, and then let it go. Maybe you choose to drive home. Maybe you choose to go to the office cafe au lait style. We can all agree that it's not a great start to the day. But does it have to ruin the entire day? No. It's over. Make the best decision for your plan-of-action, and continue to move forward. This takes the edge off of the situation so instead of letting it consume you, you've taken control of your reaction without letting it ruin your entire day.
Well, if we're really honest with ourselves in that moment, I think we know that getting wrapped up in the negative emotions and carrying them around is a heavy burden that really drags us down.
It can be hard to flip the switch by breathing deep and letting go of the negative. It takes practice and though ... but ... it's oh so worth it. Positivity is so powerful. Researchers are finding more and more evidence pointing to the many benefits of optimism and positive thinking. Such findings suggest that not only are positive thinkers healthier and less stressed, they also have greater overall well-being. According to positive psychology researcher Suzanne Segerstrom, "Setbacks are inherent to almost every worthwhile human activity, and a number of studies show that optimists are in general both psychologically and physiologically healthier."
Before you put on those rose-colored glasses, it is important to note that positive thinking is not about taking a "Pollyanna" approach to life. In fact, researchers have found that in some instances, people who are excessively optimistic might overestimate their own abilities and take on more than they can handle, ultimately leading to more stress and anxiety.
Instead of ignoring reality in favor of the silver lining, psychologists suggest that positive thinking centers on such things as a belief in your abilities, a positive approach to challenges, and trying to make the most of bad situations.
Bad things will happen. Sometimes you will be disappointed or hurt by the actions of others, or inadvertently wear your beverage. This does not mean that the world is out to get you. Positive thinkers will look at the situation realistically, search for ways that they can improve the situation, and try to learn from their experiences.
Positivity enhances wellness.
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Have a positively good day!